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Ten Tips for Setting Goals

Discipline Mentor

The hierarchy for successful goal “setting” starts with a focus on the Four Priorities of Life, then setting meaningful and realistic goals, and finally mapping out the milestones pivotal to ensuring successful completion. The ten tips below cover this process in more detail.

Keeping life’s four priorities front and center

When setting goals ensure the Four Priorities of Life (finances, career/business, relationships, and health) are rooted in your planning effort. The goals you set should span across all four areas evenly, so you live a well-balanced life. Focusing on any one area and ignoring others will create imbalance. These priorities encapsulate life and all of them are equally important.

Laying the groundwork

Over the years you’ve likely documented to-do lists, journal ideas, goals and dreams in various locations: on your computer, in journals, on scraps of paper, or even on your phone, to name a few. Consolidate all of these into one “master” list and save on a single file in your computer. Delete any items that are now obsolete and prioritize the ones that are still relevant. Make sure you categorize them under the Four Priorities of Life discussed earlier.

Set goals judiciously—plan thoroughly

Most people do not take the time to think through their goals thoroughly. Don’t just set goals arbitrarily without assessing your strengths, weaknesses and current lifestyle. Also, every goal needs to be planned thoroughly based on the following criteria:

How long will it take to accomplish?

What will I have to sacrifice?

What other areas of my life will this impact?

Do I have a realistic chance of accomplishing this goal?

Do I have the bandwidth?

What other obstacles could prevent me from accomplishing this goal?

Your answers will determine whether or not you should proceed in establishing that particular goal. There are no right or wrong answers. Everyone’s lifestyle and characteristics are different.

Plan for worst case scenarios

Unfortunately, emergencies happen without advance warning. Incorporating the appropriate safeguards when setting goals will help improve your chances of accomplishing your goal on time regardless of any unforeseen emergency. Consider factoring in some cushion time for the following emergencies when setting your goals:

Someone in your family will have severe issues to deal with

You and your significant other will have a major fall out

You will have legal issues

You will have major financial issues

You will be laid off from work

It’s not if¾it’s when! You know some if not all of the above issues will occur in your lifetime¾so be prepared and buffer in extra time for these emergencies. Plan ahead and assume they will occur! If these issues never happen, you’re that much further ahead to achieving your goals. Planning for worst case scenarios is crucial for goal success!

A catastrophe is only one if it has never been planned for. Don’t let yourself be surprised and thrown off guard. A word of caution: Continue to be aggressive and remain focused on accomplishing your goals as quickly as possible.

Don’t depend on others

You should never set goals that depend on someone else to help you accomplish them unless it’s for guidance or an occasional helping hand. Please do not take this the wrong way: you still need experts (contractors, professionals, etc.), you will also need colleagues, friends and family occasionally, but you shouldn’t depend on these people to accomplish your goals. For example, let’s say one of your goals is to build your own home. You will need specialists along the way and perhaps occasionally a helping hand from a friend. However, don’t rely on that friend to always be there to help you accomplish that goal, after all they have their own life challenges and obligations. That responsibility falls squarely on your shoulders. Placing dependencies on others could increase your odds of failure as you cannot control or manage the actions of others. You must own the goal.  Sure, it is a lot of weight to carry on your shoulders, but if something goes wrong, there is no one else to blame.

Set minor (short-term) and major (long-term) goals

What is the difference between minor and major goals? That is for you to decide. Everyone is different. You have to consider the complexity, the magnitude and your current lifestyle before deciding which goals are minor and which ones are major. Some of my minor goals could be considered major to someone else.

Typically, minor goals are: (1) short-term—can be attained in less time than a major goal (they take days, weeks or a few months to complete), (2) simple (a few easy steps), and (3) require few resources. Of these goals, those that take a few months to complete could also be considered a major goal, however, they are branded as minor goals because they are not as impactful as major goals. Below are a few examples of minor goals associated with the Four Priorities of Life:

Finances

Open a savings account and automatically transfer a set amount each pay period

Establish and maintain a simple budget

Monitor your expenses daily

Career

Organize your workspace

Never be late to work

Review work-related emails three times a day

Relationships

Go on a date night every other week with your significant other

Go to a house of worship every week

Health

Lose ten pounds in one month

Hire a trainer

Major goals are typically long-term (require over six months and up to several years to complete), require more resources, and will have life-altering effects. You may forget a few short-term/minor goals, but you will never forget a major goal! Major goals are always a priority. Also, minor goals can occasionally be cast aside in order to focus on a major goal, which is usually time dependent. Below are a few examples of major goals associated with the Four Priorities of Life:

Finances

Purchase a home

Have a million dollars in total assets

Career

Get promoted in two years

Attain the largest bonus possible every year

Relationships

Get married

Start a family

Nurture a minimum of one relationship per month with key colleagues and management 

Health

Exercise daily

Lose 50 pounds

Major goals, if accomplished will help you master your life and solidify your legacy.

Goals should be realistic (in scope and due date—initially)

At this stage of your development, the more you take on the greater the chances you will fail. Set realistic minor goals that have attainable due dates and concentrate on doing whatever it takes to complete those goals. It’s critical to get accustomed to success with a few quick wins before taking on too much. Possessing a mindset based on accomplishments is crucial for continuous motivation. Once you’ve instituted structure and developed your self-discipline skills, you can gradually take on more.

Keep goals simple

Your life is already complicated and busy with obligations. When establishing goals keep them simple, straightforward and easy to remember. In other words, minimal milestones and administrative overhead. Do not complicate life further with cumbersome and outlandish goals. Avoid complicated goals that take years to accomplish, have numerous milestones, and require you to depend on others along the way. People fail because they set goals that are outlandish and impossible to accomplish.

Never set goals on impulse

Many individuals set goals on impulse or momentous occasions. Establish goals regardless of a symbolic date on the calendar. Every goal should be extremely important and thought through carefully with time and resource considerations at the forefront, not the momentous occasion. Contemplate on what you care about and only set goals that add value to your life.

Set milestones

Milestones are the stepping stones needed to help you achieve your goals. For example, if your goal is to lose fifty pounds, what steps do you need to take to help you achieve this goal? If you focus on completing those steps, the goals take care of themselves. In this example health is the priority, losing fifty pounds is the goal and the milestone could be to lose two pounds a week via exercise and meal management. The more detailed the milestones are the better your chance of completing your goal. Don’t forget to utilize your calendar to mark deadlines for these milestones to help you keep pace and maintain accountability.

Harris Kern

After 30 years as an IT executive, Haris Kern consulted major corporations including Standard and Poor’s, GE, and The Weather Channel. His life coaching experience spans decades mentoring various clients from college students to high-level executives, even individuals with long-term disabilities like ADHD. Harris is also the author of over 40 books including Live Like You are Dying and Going from Undisciplined to Self Mastery.

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